You are Doing Such A Good Job

Everything is awful, nothing is ok, and you have done such a good job

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Holding hands. From Pixabay by Alexas_Foto

It is month seven or eight of the pandemic. Longer, if you are counting from a non-western nation.

In the United States, millions of people are out of work, facing eviction, and have lost their health insurance due to the pandemic.

Every day, we are watching the numbers tick up. More deaths. More shattered families. More loss of life, talent, ideas, love, and futures. We are losing generations and we watch the world burn on CNN, unable to hold our loved ones.

The world is falling apart and everything is awful.

And some of you you are doing such a good job.

I should add a disclaimer to that. You are only doing a good job if you are still caring about others. If you are wearing masks, social distancing, and realizing that to fight a virus it is not about your boredom or you personally, it is about others as well. If you are not in this group, this is not for you.

However…

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Holiday treats. From Pixabay by congerdesign

If you are canceling your wedding and sending out emails.

If you have had to celebrate your holidays away from loved ones, surrounded by candle light, in the silence of your home.

If you are looking ahead to a Thanksgiving with just a single turkey breast and frozen mashed potatoes.

If you are canceling your vacation plans for next year, realizing that Thailand is a dream, no longer a reality.

You are doing such a good job.

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Image of colorful buildings. From Pixabay by TheDigitalArtist

If you have not paid rent in the last couple months.

If you are searching for a job, but have had no interviews or callbacks.

If you have had to go on food stamps, government assistance, or borrow money.

You are doing such a good job.

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Image of chicken nuggests and fries. From Pixabay by adoproducciones

If you have had children at home, and in your exhaustion, allowed rules to slide.

If you aren’t getting all your work done.

If you have served chicken nuggets for dinner.

If you have struggled to explain biology to a 8th grader, your memory of the subject over 30 years old.

If you have felt everything fall apart and find yourself in a vegetative state, watching Netflix.

You are doing such a good job.

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Image of a hospital ward. From Pixabay by 1662222

If you have had to say good-bye. Forever.

If you have watched via video chat your loved one leave the Earth.

If you feel destroyed at loss, so much that it is eating you alive.

You are doing such a good job.

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Child praying in a mosque. From Pixabay by chidoic

If you have not been able to go to a place of worship.

If you feel like the divine one is not listening to your pleas.

If you feel frustrated, angry, exhausted, and desperate.

If you want to know if anyone, up there, out there is listening.

You are doing such a good job.

Nothing about this is fair.

Nothing about this is easy.

Nothing about this is remotely normal, healthy, or within the realm of joyful.

But you are doing such a good job.

And I am so proud of you.

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Nikki Brueggeman writes about Black history, grief, and current events. Twitter: @warriornikki

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